"You can at once be critical of the underlying beliefs behind your boundaries and still follow through on your boundaries." --I think this is solid life advice, Sarah. My therapist tells me that my values and boundaries matter most when they're challenged. So, when they ARE challenged, it gives us an opportunity to reflect and say something like, "I'm going to hold to this boundary for now, but, I might evolve it in the near or further off future." We can both advocate for ourselves in the moment and be open to fluidity!
"You can at once be critical of the underlying beliefs behind your boundaries and still follow through on your boundaries." --I think this is solid life advice, Sarah. My therapist tells me that my values and boundaries matter most when they're challenged. So, when they ARE challenged, it gives us an opportunity to reflect and say something like, "I'm going to hold to this boundary for now, but, I might evolve it in the near or further off future." We can both advocate for ourselves in the moment and be open to fluidity!