Hey Sarah. I'm really glad that you had a good time at the festival, and that your kiss later in the weekend was awesome. But, I'm not so into your take on this one.
I was also at the same festival and ran a workshop with men (and GNC) talking to other men (and GNC) about consent. The focus was on talking honestly, and self-critically about times that we've made women feel uncomfortable and discuss ways that we can be better men. While it sounds like that second kiss was mutually enjoyable, there are many cases where men read that same situation wrong and put women in uncomfortable situations by being too pushy -- I would assume that you yourself have felt that and that I'm not telling you anything new.
I actually commend the first person who asked consent and I wish more men started doing that. Did it take away some of the magic for you in that moment? It sounds like it, and that's a shame. But, I'd much prefer that to you or another woman feeling pressured into something you didn't want with a physical advance. I've gotten into the habit myself of asking permission for kisses and the feedback that I've gotten from a lot of the women is that they not only appreciate it, but find it sexy. And it's OK if you don't, but as a community let's please normalize men asking.
Hey Sarah. I'm really glad that you had a good time at the festival, and that your kiss later in the weekend was awesome. But, I'm not so into your take on this one.
I was also at the same festival and ran a workshop with men (and GNC) talking to other men (and GNC) about consent. The focus was on talking honestly, and self-critically about times that we've made women feel uncomfortable and discuss ways that we can be better men. While it sounds like that second kiss was mutually enjoyable, there are many cases where men read that same situation wrong and put women in uncomfortable situations by being too pushy -- I would assume that you yourself have felt that and that I'm not telling you anything new.
I actually commend the first person who asked consent and I wish more men started doing that. Did it take away some of the magic for you in that moment? It sounds like it, and that's a shame. But, I'd much prefer that to you or another woman feeling pressured into something you didn't want with a physical advance. I've gotten into the habit myself of asking permission for kisses and the feedback that I've gotten from a lot of the women is that they not only appreciate it, but find it sexy. And it's OK if you don't, but as a community let's please normalize men asking.