The haters are back!

And this time, I’m ready for 'em

So for the third time, one of my Insta videos seems to have made its way to the dark side of the web.

To the forces of anti-polyamorous ignoramus.

Since then, a flood of comments, ranging from concerned to straight up venomous have taken over my page.

It’s quite f*cked.

In this viral post, I recounted a moment that I felt jealous but then started to feel excited a moment later. It’s simply a description of something that happened in my real life.

Here’s a screenshot and some of the comments to the right.

And some other one’s not pictured:

“All poly people look like this. Ugly, unshowered.” (That person’s right BTW I didn’t shower before this in my own home, who would have thought!”)

“Shoot me if I ever become like this person”

“She’s gaslighting herself.”

That’s what I’m working with here. Just total disrespect and misunderstanding.

I’ve been here before and it’s the same f*cking old commentary as it was last time this happened.

It’s so unoriginal, it’s almost as if a bot is writing it… Maybe some of them are bots controlled by anti-polyamory lobbyists! Who knows really?

What do I know is that:

1. These people have no idea who I am or anything about me.

2. They are in no way the people I’m trying to reach.

3. Arguing with them will change nothing.

I mean, really how can I take them seriously? Because what kind of person do you have to be to go around social media commenting on people you disagree with who are just living their lives and trying to help others find joy in their relationships?

Like you have to be the scum of the earth to spend your waking hours doing that.

Bottom of the bottom.

A missionary of the lowest grade.

And it’s so cowardly because 99% of these people would probably never say any of this to my face.

I welcome criticism, but respectful criticism, informed criticism. Not this.

It’s funny looking back and remembering that these people actually got to me before, that I actually spent time, precious time, answering a few of them. I’m so grateful for this new perspective, that I’m not wasting my time and energy with this anymore.

And I’m not saying it doesn’t bother me at all. It does. It makes me angry and most of all, frustrated to read these comments because I’ve got so much I want to say but don’t have the time or energy to reply.

The one thing I will say I’m truly sad about is how much more of them there seem to be than of us. How the likes on the hateful comments are actually higher than on the video itself. That’s a bit sad because it shows how much force there is against us. How many people want to shut us down completely for just living our lives the way we want to.

It can be easy to get used to this bubble of liberalism in Berlin where this is all commonplace. It’s really not. I salute you, anyone reading, in particular, who find yourselves isolated for simply being open to non-monogamy.

It’s f*cking hard to be different from the people around you. This is just a reminder of that. I’m sending you my love. I promise you, this is real and you are not alone.

<3

Sarah