He was always beautiful, I just didn’t see it before… 😍

And a little about race and attraction

“I don’t want a sexual relationship with you.”

This is what I told him the first night we’d ever hung out just the two of us. We were going to a sex-positive party at a Berlin nightclub, and he’d asked me, “What are your expectations? Are we going to have sex tonight?”

You might think that sounds quite forward.

But you have to understand, in Berlin, in sex…