🫣 Can I hook up with your partner?

I was asked this recently.

Someone I know and like, Alina, asked me this at a club where we were all hanging out a few weeks ago.

She approached me as I was sitting with another friend on a bench in the chill-out room and said “Can I ask you something?” Then she said she’d like to hook up with Flo.

“I don’t know if it will happen anyway and I don’t want to do anything that makes you uncomfortable,” she added. “How does it make you feel?” she asked putting her hand on my shoulder.

“I def feel something,” I said as I placed my hand on my heart. I felt that familiar little punch at the top of my chest.

“Then it’s okay, I won’t do it,” she said quickly. “It’s not that important.”

I closed my eyes. “But wait,” I said resting my other hand on her thigh (we had a lot of physical contact so I thought that was okay). “It’s also exciting. It’s a little scary, but also exciting. I like you a lot, and I trust you, and I like the idea of you kissing him.” I smiled and looked back at her.

“Are you sure?” she asked again, genuinely concerned.

Yes, I said. I was sure. “Thank you so much for asking,” I replied grateful.

In all my years of being non-monogamous, I’d never had an interaction like this. I had never been approached by someone about hooking up with Flo nor have I ever approached another person asking how they’d feel if I hooked up with their partner.

And after this experience, I can’t believe it.