4 Signs I Was Meant to Be Non-Monogamous Before I Knew What Non-Monogamy Was

There were signs well before I knew it was an option

I’m still on vacation so this is an oldy but a goody, and this time, a bonus for my supporting members. Normal programming will be back on next week.

<3

Sarah

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During our first year of college, Zach and I got used to seeing each other every single day. We’d fallen deeply in love. So when summer came along, we had to figure out how we would be apart for two whole months.

We were both going back to our hometowns, five hours apart from each other by car. Cars that neither of us owned.

How would we survive the distance?

We both separately lamented the problem. And I came up with a solution. A solution that, in hind site, may have been the first sign I was not 100% into monogamy.

#1. I wanted to go on a break

There was no question that I wanted to stay with Zach. I loved him like crazy. But I also thought being single over the summer might be more fun than being in a long distance relationship would.

I thought, we could stay in touch and visit each other, but postpone our relationship until the fall when we’d be physically together again. It sounded like a great idea to me.

So one evening when we were walking to the Starbucks on 34th and Walnut, I asked him, “What if we went on a break?”

“What?” he said.

“Yeah, I mean since we’ll be apart anyway. Just for the summer.” I said. “Then we’d get back together of course in the fall.”